5 steps to unravel your own perspective and overcome homesickness

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Here are 5 steps to challenge your perspective to lessen the intensity of feeling homesick. We don’t see things as they are; we see things as we are.

We see the world from our perspective!

A person, who is less anxious about an upcoming move, will find it easier to adjust to a new home, be less homesick and will see the whole experience in a more positive light.

A person, who is depressed and anxious prior to moving, will likely perceive the experience as negative, miss home and feel homesick.

A person, who had a bad experience with a dog, will be afraid of dogs.

A person, who grew up with a cute little dog, will see all dogs as friendly.

We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are. Anaïs Nin

A person, who sees himself as a success, will not be distressed by failure.

A person, who sees himself as a failure, will not try to succeed.

A person, who mistrusts others, will see everywhere betrayal and does not have many friends.

A person, who sees the good in people, will find goodness everywhere and has many friends.

“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” Anaïs Nin

What a revelation!

It makes you realize that we use our lens to see things our way. The lens of our believes, the lens of our culture, the lens of our knowledge, the lens of our past experiences, the lens of our fears, the lens of our personality, the lens of our disposition. With so many lenses, it is difficult to believe that we can see things as they are. Continue Reading →

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To call or not to call …? What helps when you are homesick?

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Ever wondered why you feel worse and more homesick after you called or skyped home? Be aware of the illusion of connection and the possible negative effect of calling too often.

 

Calling not enough

When I moved to the US around 20 years ago and I felt terribly homesick, there was no email, no Skype, cellphone or Facebook. My only choice of communicating with my family and friends back home was snail mail. I wrote letters on very thin airmail paper, put them in the airmail envelope, bought international stamps and finally sent them off to Germany. My loved ones would receive them after 7-10 days.

Every day I rushed to my mailbox hoping to get a letter. On the rare occasion, I would pick up the phone and call home. Each minute was costing over $3!!! So the phone was definitely not an economical means of communication twenty years ago. I missed my family quite a bit.

 

Calling too often

Times have changed. Technology has allowed us to stay in contact with every person around the globe for very little money or even for free. I am taking advantage of Skype these days and talk to family and friends on a regular basis. I enjoy staying connected and finding out what everyone is up to do.

However, this constant contact might not be right for everyone. Continue Reading →

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